Okay, time for another one of the personal blogs!
I've now been in a long-distance relationship for almost two months, I know that doesn't sound like a long time, but we've spend a lot of time talking, much more than I've ever done with guys who are actually here, near me...
But, like with any other relationship, a long-distance relationship have it's complications.
The first I've encountered is getting hold of each other, because it's very expensive to send text messages or call someone who's in a different country, it is for me at least. This means that I have to go to a place with an internet connection, and wait for Chris to come online. But because we're both nerds, who prefer staying at home, in front of our computers, this is a problem that we rarely have... But it does happen that one of us have to wait several hours for the other one.
Then there is the complication of culture, language and time-differences... Well, with time differences, there's not really a problem for us, because Chris is Northern Irish, and there's only an hour's difference between us.
And I guess the Danish and British cultures aren't that different really that different. The thing that annoys me the most, is that since I'm Scandinavian I grew up with Astrid Lindgren, and Chris had never heard of "Brothers Lionheart" till I told him about it, and that was possibly the movie I watched the most in my childhood, well that and Pippi...
When it comes to language, oh, I've lost count of the times I've been yelled at because of Danish, I remember the time I was yelled at for the way we name animals the best. Chris got very angry when he found out that a hedgehog is named "stickpig", and he yelled at me for 20 minutes, and at the end I was crying and he was yelling louder and louder.
Then there is the thing I've been asked about, the physical part, and I guess, what I have to say about that is: when you're in a long-distance relationship you'll have to rely less on the physical part, and more on understanding each other, you'll have to be able to just talk for hours.
And Chris says: meh...
That made me think for sure. Good communication is one of the keys to an awesome relationship. Um, if he has yelled at you for 20 minutes until he made you cry - that's pretty bad. I've experienced it as a male with a mother that fails to listen and keeps pushing an agenda that she isn't even aware of or pretends to understand. That's at least how I saw things play out (I was pushing my own agenda as well btw, so a conflict was inevitable). In other words, there is no excuse for a man yell at a lady like that. It is a short step from violence and we can't predict when a man will go off. I like to think that I will never go past that line but you can never know for certain.
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